Your First Vibrator: A Beginner’s Guide to Choosing the Right Toy
So, you’re thinking about buying your first vibrator? First off—yes! Do it! Exploring your body and pleasure is an empowering, exciting step. But if you’ve ever browsed through a sex toy store (or scrolled endlessly online), you’ve probably felt a bit overwhelmed. There are so many options, some looking sleek and simple, others… well, let’s just say they look pretty advanced.
Where do you even begin? What if you pick the wrong one? How do you know what you’ll actually enjoy? Don't worry, we're here to help!
Step 1: What Kind of Pleasure Do You Like?
Not all vibrators feel the same, and different types stimulate different areas. Before choosing a toy, ask yourself:
✔️ Do you enjoy external stimulation (clitoral)? If you like pressure, flicking, or circular motions on your clit, you’ll love a clitoris vibrator.
✔️ Do you think you’d enjoy penetration? If you like the idea of internal stimulation, look for a G-spot vibrator.
✔️ Do you want both? Some vibrators do both clitoral and G-spot stimulation (like dual vibrators).
✔️ Not sure? That’s okay! The safest bet is to start externally, since most women find clitoral stimulation the easiest way to orgasm.
Step 2: Choosing the Right First Vibrator
If you’re new to this, I’d recommend starting with one of these three beginner-friendly toys—all simple, effective, and non-intimidating.
1. Lovense Ferri – The Wearable Panty Vibrator (For Clitoral Stimulation)
If you’re looking for something small, discreet, and easy to use, the Lovense Ferri is a perfect choice. It’s a clitoris vibrator that magnetically attaches to your panties, meaning you can use it hands-free. The best part? It’s remote-controlled, so you can adjust vibration intensity levels, patterns of vibration, and even sync it with Lovense Remote for partner play. It’s also great for long-distance play, making it ideal if you’re in a long-distance relationship.
⭐ Best for: Women who love external stimulation and want a beginner-friendly, wearable vibrator.
2. Lovense Lush 3 – The Classic Internal Vibrator (For G-Spot Stimulation)
If you’re interested in trying internal pleasure, the Lovense Lush 3 is a fantastic introduction to G-spot stimulation. It’s designed to sit inside comfortably, hitting the right spot with strong vibrations while keeping your hands free. Bonus? It’s also remote-controlled, making it a fun choice for solo or partner play.
⭐ Best for: Women curious about penetration and G-spot pleasure but want something soft, beginner-friendly, and adjustable.
3. Lovense Nora – The Ultimate Dual Stimulation Toy (For Clitoral + G-Spot Pleasure)
If you want everything in one, the Lovense Nora is a dual vibrator (also called a rabbit vibrator) that stimulates both your G-spot and clitoris at the same time. It has a rotating head for deep vibration pitch and an external arm for clitoral suction stimulation. The toy also features heating thumper rabbit vibrator technology, which adds warmth to your experience.
⭐ Best for: Women who want the full experience and are ready to explore both external and internal pleasure.
Step 3: How to Start Using Your First Vibrator
So, you’ve chosen your first toy—now what? Here’s how to ease into it without pressure:
💡 Go slow & explore: Your first time shouldn’t be about chasing an orgasm. Focus on exploring different sensations and getting comfortable with your toy. 💡 Use lube: Even for external play, a body-safe silicone-based lube makes everything feel smoother and more enjoyable.
💡 Experiment with vibration patterns: Most toys come with multiple settings—start with a low vibration frequency and work your way up.
💡 No pressure: If it doesn’t feel amazing right away, that’s okay! Take your time and try different techniques.
Want to Take Things to the Next Level?
Once you’re comfortable with solo play, toys can also help you feel more connected to a partner—even in a long-distance relationship. That’s where VybeSense comes in.
VybeSense is an app that connects your Lovense toy to your partner’s heartbeat in real-time. That means when their heart races, your toy responds with stronger vibrations. It’s the closest thing to feeling their touch, even if they’re miles away. VybeSense also works seamlessly with Lovense Remote, making long-distance control easier than ever.
If you’re ready to explore long-distance play (or just want to add some excitement to your relationship), VybeSense makes it easy to experience intimacy in a whole new way.
Buying your first vibrator doesn’t have to be complicated. Start simple, go with what excites you, and don’t be afraid to explore. Whether you begin with a clitoris vibrator, G-spot vibrator, or dual vibrator, there’s no wrong choice—just what feels good for you.
And if you ever have questions? Don’t worry, I got you. 😉
